𝐁𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐒𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐝 𝐁𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐝 / Post

𝐒𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐟𝐞𝐰 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐜𝐡 𝐈 𝐟𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐣𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐨𝐧𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐦𝐲 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐝 𝐰𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐖𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐲 𝐢𝐧 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭.

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I had not found much personal support for my developing awareness that my wife is still with me, that we really do live on in the greater reality after body-death. I realize that the actual jump from religious hope or spiritualistic wishing to actual reality is difficult for people to make, as it has been for me. I found in these books however that others had experiences of our loved ones carrying on which I could relate to, that spoke with bright living voices from beyond the body-death and they helped me find the courage to believe my heart 

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𝐓𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐨𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐧 𝐆𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐭: 𝐋𝐨𝐬𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐁𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐚𝐬 𝐚 𝐉𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐀𝐰𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠, by Terri Daniels. This is a very helpful book that clearly portrays how we may change our awareness to perceive the greater realms of spirit. Grief Street introduces a new "grief code," which is found in a brave new world where grief can be viewed as a gift as well as a tragedy. In this world, death is not the enemy, and grief does not have to be paralyzing. Instead, we can welcome the ways in which grief shakes us loose from our spiritual lethargy and creates a wound that is much more than a wound… it is an opening to higher awareness that can lead us to greater peace in life, death and on to the beyond..

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Seeking Jordan; How I Found The Truth About Death & the Invisible Universe,

by Mathew McKay PhD.

This is a wonderful book, short concise chapters overflowing with Mathew McKay's shared insights and channeled wisdom from his discarnate son Jordan about what awaits us beyond the body-death.

I found chapter 8 'Why Things Happen' to be particularly clear in its explanation of how as souls we have arranged all the key dramas of our lives and our deaths. These are shown to be learning experiences to enrich and deepen our soul's capacity to love with understanding and compassion.

I recommend this book to all openminded bereaved persons who are struggling with grief and loss. 

The book clearly portrays that we are forever intouch with and close to those whom we love who have already left the physical realms for those of spirit.

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The Afterlife Frequency: The Scientific Proof of Spiritual Contact and How That Awareness Will Change Your Life by Mark Anthony, the Psychic Lawyer.  

Very clear and acessible book about the author's contacts and communications with persons who are nolonger physical but now in spirit. 

Here are a few short quotes which will give you an idea of the book; 

''The Electromagnetic Souls (aka spirits) who are part of the collective consciousness do not speak in a human language. They communicate by adjusting their afterlife frequency to align with the medium's brainwave frequency. During this alignment, spirits emit waves of information to the medium, whose brain converts that energetic impulse into recognizable concepts based on the medium's memories, feelings and cultural associations...
The information transmitted from spirits may come in one form or in a combination of ways. The medium may see images or receive visions; hear words, complete scentences, or songs; feel physical sensations and emotions; or smell or taste something significant that is associated with the spirit (a) or the recipient of the message. The medium at also receive what I refer to as a "direct feed, where a, large amount of information is transferred at once"
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As a Medium who is in frequent communication with persons in spirit, he provides a very clear outline of how he manages these communications and thoughts about the realm they come from.
I highly recommend this and all of Mark Anthony's books to any interested in spirit and life after death.

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𝐁𝐫𝐢𝐝𝐠𝐞 𝐎𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐫 translated by Joseph Wetzl. This book contains communications from a young musician named Sigwart to his sister after his death in 1915. After experiencing an inner unrest leading to the feeling that her brother was trying to contact her, she gradually achieved conscious contact with him, receiving the remarkable messages included here, messages that she shared with Rudolf Steiner. Containing prayers, meditations, insights, advice, and a view of the world born aloft by love, it will comfort, enlighten, and speak to hearts of all persuasions..  

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𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐖𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐉𝐞𝐫𝐫𝐲 𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐎𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐏𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐈 𝐓𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐖𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐃𝐞𝐚𝐝, by Irene Kendig. These dialogues explore life from a spiritual perspective in this remarkable collection of interviews with seven people who've died, which elevates the consciousness and empowers you to make choices in alignment with your soul's purpose. The responses offered by Ms. Kendig's loved ones not only diminish fear of dying, they provide solace for those who grieve, and inspire all to live courageously, joyfully, and respectfully . . . now.

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𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐀𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐁𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐅𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫𝐬 by Annie Kagan. This book offers a fascinating account of one man's afterlife voyage beyond the beyond. One of the most detailed and profound ADC's ever recorded (after death communication's), Kagan's book takes the reader beyond the near-death experience. Billy's vivid, real-time account of his on-going journey through the mysteries of death will change the way you think about life, death and your place in the Universe.

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𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐒𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐬 𝐏𝐥𝐚𝐧 by Robert Schwartz. This book and others by the author explores the premise that we are all eternal souls who plan our lives, including our greatest challenges, before we are born for the purpose of spiritual growth on the greater curriculum of love. Through compelling profiles of people who knowingly planned their life experiences, Your Soul’s Plan shows that suffering is not purposeless, but rather imbued with deep meaning. Working with four gifted mediums, author Robert Schwartz reveals the significance of each person’s life plan and allows us a fascinating look into the “other side.”

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𝐄𝐦𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐮𝐞𝐥'𝐬 𝐁𝐨𝐨𝐤(𝐬), 𝟏, 𝟐 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝟑, channeled by Pat Rodegast. These are easy to read and channel very calming messages of love and support in a non religious but deeply and lovingly spiritual context.

Here is the revealing underground classic, a work  that stands beside the "Seth" books as a  delightful and invaluable guide to our inner  spirit and our outer world. Emmanuel speaks to us through Pat Rodegast and shares his wisdom and  insights on all aspects of life. Emmanuel says: "The gifts I wish to  give you are my deepest love, the safety of truth,  the wisdom of the universe and the reality of God .  . . . The issue of whether there is a Greater  Reality or not, for me at least, has been settled. I  know that there is. So I will speak to you from the knowing that I possess." 

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𝐒𝐨𝐮𝐥 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 + 𝐒𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐆𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐭𝐡, given to Sanaya Roman by Orin, a wise and gentle spirit teacher. Theses are uplifting and very helpful books with much detail about how we may develop a stronger awareness of our higher spirit selves in the deeper fulfillment of immortal cosmic love. 

The Soul Love book is a step-by-step guide to making soul contact and awakening your heart centers. As you read, you will be taking a wonderful journey of adventure and growth. You will prepare your personality, journey to the soul plane, and receive energy from the Enlightened Ones as you meet and blend with your soul.

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𝐓𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐋𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 A beautiful and inspiring account of arrival and discovery of the life after death in the realms of endless and progressive light, as channeled from a passed over christian nun to her friend Helen Greaves.

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𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐂𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐋𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 Messages Inspired by Christ Consciousness by Pamela Kribbe. This book is a guide on your way to heart-centered living. Living from the heart means that you live according to your soul's calling and that you truly express your unique gifts on Earth. Before you find the peace and joy this brings, you may encounter deep fear, doubt and loneliness inside. This book guides you on the inner path from ego to heart and brings you closer to your own soul.

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𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐍𝐚𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐎𝐟 𝐏𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲, by Seth and channeled by Jane Roberts. This book and all of the Jane Roberts' Seth books are for anyone wanting to understand more about how we as immortal spirits create our life experiences. Although not specifically addressing our spirit selves after physical life, in these books Seth does however a great job of widening our existential horizons and of attesting to the survival after body-death of the individual personality.

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I hope you may find time to read any of these which appeal to you, that you will find your spirit uplifted and your perceptions unveiled.

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Continuing Bonds: Shifting the Grief Paradigm / Article

Continuing Bonds: Shifting the Grief Paradigm;
Heres another post that I compiled to share in the Bereavement Forum which may be of interest to others too. It details a different approach to coping with the grief for a lost loved one than the more widely known reconciliation and closure methods - that of continuing your bond or bridge of love to and with your beloved.

If ideas of acceptance, closure, reinvestment of energy, and embarking on a ‘new life’ have ever rubbed you the wrong way, you are not alone. It was only a matter of time before someone stood up and yelled, I don’t need to put my loved one in the past and reinvest my energy in a new life in order to be healthy and well-adjusted! Klass, Silverman, and Nickman, explicitly questioned the dominant models of grief. The(ir) book suggested that perhaps these linear models, ending in a detachment from the person we’ve lost, were denying a reality of how many people grieve. They suggested a new paradigm, rooted in the observation of healthy grief that did not resolve by detaching from the deceased, but rather in creating a new relationship with the deceased.

Here is the 30 second summary: under this model, when your loved one dies grief isn’t about working through a linear process that ends with ‘acceptance’ or a ‘new life’, where you have moved on or compartmentalized your loved one’s memory. Rather, when a loved one dies you slowly find ways to adjust and redefine your relationship with that person, allowing for a continued bond with that person that will endure, in different ways and to varying degrees, throughout your life. This relationship is not unhealthy, nor does it mean you are not grieving in a normal way. Instead, the continuing bonds theory suggests that this is not only normal and healthy, but that an important part of grief is continuing ties to loved ones in this way. Rather than assuming detachment as a normal grief response, continuing bonds considers natural human attachment even in death.
If you are interested please follow the link below for more details -
SOURCE; WHATS YOUR GRIEF ( https://whatsyourgrief.com/continuing-bonds-shifting-the-g…/ )

16 Tips for Continuing Bonds with People We’ve Lost
With decades of grief theory that focused on closure, acceptance, and moving on, it is no wonder that so many grievers feel self-conscious about maintaining ties with their deceased loved one after a certain period of time. Many now believe that healthy grief involves finding a new and different relationship with the person who died.
If you love the continuing bonds theory you may be looking for ways to continue bonds with your loved one.

We have some ideas here;
1. Talk to them
2. Write letters to the person you lost.
3. Keep photos of the person around.
4. Incorporate your loved one into events and special days.
5. Imagine what advice they would give you when making tough decisions.
6. Talk about them with new people, who never got to know your loved one.
7. Live your life in a way you know they would be proud of.
8. Finish a project they were working on.
9. Take a trip they always wanted to take.
10. Keep up their facebook page.
11. Adopt a hobby that they enjoyed.
12. Create a Dear Photograph.
13. Plan for the anniversary.
14. Keep something that belonged to your loved one.
15. Enjoy comfort foods.
16. Experience your loved one’s presence.

It is common to feel the presence of your loved one – it may just be a feeling, it may be a specific type of wind or bird or countless other things that seem to be a sign of our loved one’s presence. Unlike the studies about keeping something that belonged to your loved one, feeling your loved one’s presence has been shown in studies to ease the sadness that accompanies grief. So when you feel your loved one’s presence, feel it without apology or any worry that you are crazy! This is a normal and helpful way we continue bonds with our loved ones.
More details for all of those points if you follow the link below -
SOURCE; WHATS YOUR GRIEF ( https://whatsyourgrief.com/16-practical-tips-continuing-bo…/ )

I like this outlook as it very clearly portrays how I have been feeling and instinctually behaving, it seems to focus on love more than grief and continuance of that love rather than closure. It may not be for everyone, but for me it is encouraging that my approach does not mean I have lost my mind or that my grief is charting less than healthy waters - its an other way of addressing this situation, of remaining in touch, of cherishing the flame of love.

I hope this outlook may be of help to some.

TitusL xx

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On Anticipatory Grief / Post

I have copied this reply from the Bereavement Forum - it is my answer in response to a shared question about did we experience Anticipatory Grief;

Being the 24/7 carer, in the later months I was often up and down multiple times throughout most nights therefore deeply exhausted in a cummulative way. The days were spent chasing the Drs and chemists for medecines/ deliveries and looking after my sweet beloved Wendy. It was totally overwhelming. I knew I was burning up my own health reserves but it didnt matter at all, I would give the same again and more if I could do anything to ease the passing of my beloved.

Throughout all of Wendy's 2 years plus of radiotherapy, 2 courses of chemotherapy, liver resection and stoma etc I was also coping as I still am with my own M.E. (myalgic encephalomyelitis), my Mothers AAA Aneurysm (burst artery), my brothers ongoing needs following his having had a stroke some years ago (mainly just arranging things by phone these days as he is much improved but still under care) - altogether far to much for me. I am surprised that I haven't had a full mental breakdown yet - I realise I was only managing to hold everthing together by the power of love -

Although we had agreed to not descend the stairwell to endless grief, I did in the later stages start to undergo anticipatory grief which in my case was characterised by super high levels of stress, distress and experiencing immense and unbelievably powerful physical pains as a consequence of emotional pain. My heart felt to be torn continually from my chest, my arms and hands were on fire, my back and neck were in perpetual agony, my head numb, my legs aching and my whole physical system to say nothing of my emotional system was in chaos.

I think however that my anticipatory grief may have been strangely helpful to me, because it gave me a forewarning of the existential shock to my life and spirit to follow that accompany my now ongoing grief. Conversely, perhaps it would have been better if I had not had the run-in of anticipatory grief, then I might have had a heart attack as soon as Wendy died - perhaps this would have been a better option.

Coping at home as we did by Wendy's choice and my willing agreement did give me the most immense physical and emotional cost from which I am still a long way back from anything like an even keel physically or emotionally. Just like you though, neither of us would have wanted the demise and departure differently.

We knew we were living on the knife edge with a rapidly running down clock and in some ways that process compelled me to live with a very sharp focus on the present moment - this in itself has served to help me exist and not get entrenched quite so overwhelmingly in the worst of ensuing emotional collapse and psychologial upheavals that I experience now.

Personally, whilst heartbroken and sobbing daily, because I find that I have no other choice, I have begun to establish a deeper grounding and awareness in the spiritual outlook that we shared together - which now is based on my own rather than our joint perceptions. By this means I am aware of my beloved's love still in my heart and thereby in my life. In regard of other people and the wider world though, I am a wreck, unstable, unable to mix with people etc.

I completely understand how you are feeling - utterly exhausted, burnt out, silenced. 
I do not expect to recover at any point, nobody can take the place of my love in my life or my heart - and as she is still with me minus body, there is no need. I am changed. It is a hard relationship to remain atuned to though.

Best wishes and lots of love xx
TitusL