The Metaphysics of Love / Poem.

The Metaphysics of Love;

My words of love for you are the very essence of my spirit,
My poems for you are the most sacred love offering of my life -

Every thought of you is a flowering star in my heart, luminous, bright and beautiful -
I walk with your love throughout the shining gardens of our ethereal heavens, forever.

I am following your love, one impossible step at a time outside of everything,
Opening my heart to perception without form, your presence without physicality -

The awakening of our love dissolves every obstacle to the spiritual awareness,
Looking beyond all circumstance and before every hope into the heart, you are here.

Walking without faltering through the dramas of this world and into your endless love;
Looking only with the heart's intuition for sight,
Listening only to the silence of your shining light,
Following only the radiance of your invisible way,
Emboldened only by the consciousness of your love before the entrapment of thought,
Led only by the balance of the heart and soul with my loves devotion to you,
With only your loves true freedom for my causeway,
With your love beside me,
Always,
Timeless,
Without end -
Moving through the multiple days of forever and the myriad forms of being,
Dancing in the substance of spirit,
Eternally present,
Stretching out limitlessly in your tenderness,
The deep knowing of your love imbues my soul,
The mantle of every gentle joy is yours,
You are the kindness, compassion & truth of all my days,
You are are the education of love, light & healing,
Yours are the most sacred of ways.

The subtle discernments of your love -
To know that we are not the form but the conscioussness of spirit,
is the wakefullness of love.
Your gift of love is a transcendental doorway,
I step through this doorway to be with you forever and forever and forever, my love.

Your love is broadcasting on all frequencies - everywhere -
I am like a tower, transmiting the ineffable communications of your love,
This joy is given to me,
Thank you.

I am like a transformer decoding the mysteries of your love
so that many hearts can hear it,
This honour is my delight,
Thank you.

I am like a a conduit through which you share your love,
To this undertaking I surrender with gratitude,
Thank you.

This is the metaphysics of absolute and complete love,
My love is you -

c. TitusL

art co brigitte jost

On Valentines Day / Poem

On Valentines Day;

Your spring flowers called out to me, from their deep unfurled sleeping,

They ask to know where you are, missing your touch they are weeping.

I explain to spiritual gardens of delight, and to happiness you have flown,

To tend the heavenly blossoms, that in so many hearts God has sown...

Your flowers smile now, they understand how much you care,

They know your love is divine, and reaches in goodness everywhere.

Oh my dearest hearts sweetest love, my only soul mate companion,

I can but tenderly sing of your love, so expansive and full of compassion.

You came so quietly to transform all, the days adrift in this world dreaming,

To sing your heartsong of love, your kind heart every lost hope redeeming.

Open your eyes wide and open your heart wide too,

Let your soul perception arise, there is love here for you.

This life is not what it seems, our love will never be forsaken,

From your heart the power of all goodness, our love will awaken.

So sang you here, in your grace days upon the earth,

Before setting sail into the starry heavens, for your cosmic rebirth.

In the oceans of infinity, you are loves bright silver lining,

Your spirit has been received, the very heart of true love defining.

So many joyful souls, in heavenly gladness are now sparkling,

They dance out to greet you, your spiritual dawn is so heartening.

An infinitude of new flowers are composed in your honour,

Your pure love refining, divinities love in every hearts bower.

Awoken from my questing life, higher dreams given over to devotion,

Within each arising moment, your love is my transcendent emotion.

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And you dance into my heart, with every beat it is making,

Your love without ever a pause, is mystical, marvellous and breathtaking. 

c TitusL

 art co anelia pavlova

Your Love Leads My Spirit / Poem

Your Love Leads My Spirit

Sometime after I am transcended into spirit,
I will understand all of the reasons of why,
But until then and ever after and ever after,
I shall keep your love in my heart and nearby.

I realise that to a great spiritual awakening,
you were taken up at dawn into delight.
I believe that in happiness and joy you are dancing,
in the luminescence of heavens sweet light.

Yet bound up in earth physics as I still am,
it is hard to accept you exist outside them today,
Just as once upon a time and far away,
were places we could not with any conviction portray.

I am however open to intuition, inner light,
heart love sight and the essence divine -
For here you are found beyond all longing,
you are my one eternal, my true love sublime.

I know that you can hear me now my love,
see my rights and all of my wrongs,
Your love overcomes every missgiving,
your cherishing helps me sing our love songs.

How long must I walk the path without belonging,
as I am torn between this world and the other,
Come the day we shall be reunited together,
and new realms of love will discover.

I would hear from you oh beloved of my heart soul,
of the infusions and delights of above,
You can speak directly to my heart, sweet soul,
you are my celestial ever loving spirit of love.

There is something I so need to tell you,
and Im telling you every day that I breathe,
I need you for ever and for ever,
can you petition God my soul to unsheathe.

Until then I cherish each day of our love,
in my soul the lamp shines that you lit,
I thank you for your bright beloved radiance,
and your gentle heartsong now moonlit.

There is a place deep within and beyond self,
where every moment of our happiness can be found,
To this land which is located nowhere on the earth,
I am for your love eternally bound.

You have found the whole secret of my everything,
and I gave you my heart evermore,
That it is your love that leads my spirit and soul,
uplifts my heart and so very much more -

c. TitusL

art co birgitte jost

The Only Thing True / Poem

Here and now is the only place that really matters,

the spiritually minded repeatedly say.

Be free in this moment for the past or the yet to come

have no inherent meaning, will lead you astray...

All else is conjecture, delusion, projection,

an imagination to cast aside and thus live for the day.

But this here and now is so much more,

step through the heart into the secret of the way -

Here cosmic orders of being, light and divine love,

dance forever in the most sublime and joyful of play,

Here may appear sometimes physical yes,

but there's more spiritual bliss to this existence everyday.

For this here and now is also emotional and electromagnetic

in some hithertoo fathomless way,

biochemical yet spiritual, subatomic but transcendental,

it is incandescent, luminous, shining and free -

This here and now stretches from where you are precisely,

to the farthest four corners of the unchartable eternal infinity -

This here and now is peopled with all kinds of proclivities,

of creatures, plants and bacterium,

of bank accounts, background radiation and beatitudes too,

With exoplanets, neutron stars and phantasmagoric galaxies,

universes expanding into the unimaginable,

the warp and weave of cosmic whatness through and through..

This here and now is bursting at the seams

with its bubbling of energies, emotions and concepts,

the leaping of thought forms and light bodies,

choirs of subtle spirits who are singing to you -

With angels of devotion gentle, bright and loving,

with my hearts most cherished beloved

and her most beautiful dreams,

of divine light and eternal love coming true....

This here and now like my love without end,

comes from the heart of infinity where it is ever with you -

This here and now is indeed the only place that matters -

and our love is the only thing true

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c.TitusL

art co peter christiansen finch

So Much Thankfulness / Poem

Covered from heart to toe in your love's blessings, I have so much to be thankful for -

But this life now seems like a prophecy that has been cast awry and dismantled blindly in the dark.
Even the gods must have followed a plan that was broken, an unrelenting strange quark.
Even the divines in their wisdom missled, must have followed a scripture misread.
Even all of the science, medecine and prayers, diets, drs and devotions did not set aside this foreclosure.

What they did to you and me, I will follow your love to the heavens of white clover -
What they did to you and me, I will uphold our love like a banner that god in compassion will not wish to pass over,
What they did to you and me, I will be with you forever.

I am beset by the coldness of the midnight moon bathing in the warm tears of the heart of my soul,
as you are relocated to the 'up above' like a mystical magnetic North pole.
I am the sacrificial sundancer dancing in the sacred sunshine of your hazy heavenly love,
as my blood and every heartbeat call your name for it is you that I cannot be deprived of.
I am yet grateful to know this, you exist as a free spirit of joy in the eternity.
I am yet grateful to show this, you will see the ascent of my spirit to join thee.

Two paths they set before me, 400 hours every day;
Will my heart in this moment perish in grief or transcend in the infinite way.
I choose to let the transcendance shine because this is the bridge to your presence.
Not so easy as you might think when my heart travails the unmarked causeway in essence,
For although I know the path well, but now storms of memory assail the inner doorway for my grief striken aquiescence.
Yet I will not allow neither grief nor fear to be without you to keep me from your loving,
For I know that you are with me in spirit still, other than this I know nothing.

You are become the sun for me, your warm embrace brings your light and your love,
I am the new moon in this reconfigured life, in your sublime love joyfully awake and looking 'above'.
Your cosmic energy dances into my heart across the lightyears outside of time and of space.
I am so close to you that our happiness will not erase,
I am simultaneously so far from you, that stars shatter in their grief for this unwarranted coup de grace.

Yet here we are together still, just not in the regular way,
What love has made of our hearts nothing will divide, for love has the ultimate say.
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© TitusL

art co brigitte devaia jost

The Bridge Over the River / Post

I have just started reading
The Bridge Over the River by Sigwart
which was recommended to me by the spiritual singer Deva Premal.
I am delighted to share that this is a beautifully written book which I warmly recommend to everybody who accepts there may be more to our lives on Earth than the meerely physical and especially to all such who are bereaved.
There is so much love and light pouring forth from this beautiful book. 

Here is a quote for example from Page 57-58 -  October 26, 1915,
The author is writing from heavenly realms -
''I abide among you with the sun in my heart. The warm rays penetrate you and endow you with peace. You were victorious over your lives, over death, because a holy power proceeds from the overcoming of earthly affairs; 
it lightens your wings of spiritual cognition.
 - Sigwart.

art co brigitte devaia jost

Here are the book details from the Goodreads page;
This book contains communications from a young musician named Sigwart to his sister after his death in 1915. After experiencing an inner unrest leading to the feeling that her brother was trying to contact her, she gradually achieved conscious contact with him, receiving the remarkable messages included here, messages that she shared with Rudolf Steiner. Containing prayers, meditations, insights, advice, and a view of the world born aloft by love, it will comfort, enlighten, and speak to hearts of all persuasions;

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Here are a some quotes from the Amazon reviews;
In a very loving way and sometimes firm the mostly short but rich messages and few verses give the reader comfort. Reading the messages just feels so nurishing spiritually and calms me down before going to sleep

It is remarkable to me that this book was published in the early 1900's. I can imagine Sigwart's sister's apprehension in publishing, along with the remarkable joy and promise that compels me to read and reread.

Bought this one for friends and they love it so much, one ordered two more to give out.

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This book is a very welcome and uplifting outlook on the spirit being in and communicating from the afterlife. It gives the open minded reader much comfort and encouragement in their hope or belief of their deaparted loved one(s) being ever with us and assures us that we will be reunited in the hereafter.

I hope you will enjoy and be uplifted by this book and the message of love beyond all barriers that it carries as much as I am.

Best Wishes xx
TitusL

 photo of the bridge over the river book - by TitusL

Transformative Love / Poem

You are transformative,
You transform everything into love -

You transform your death into the light of love within my heart,
If I would be with you -

You transform my love for you,
Into an invisible pathway of love...

You transform my invisible pathway of love,
Into a tangible present...

You transform this tangible present into your pure loving presence,
Which radiates love....

You transfer your pure loving presence into my heart,
Which you freely inhabit in the now....

You transform the freely inhabited now of my heart,
Into a gateway of your loving spirit -

You transform the gateway of your loving spirit,
Into a realm of love beyond form -

You transfer your realm of love beyond form,
And your spiritual space reaching beyond everywhere,
Into my heart...

You came to me first in a dream,
You came with your heart and with your love both awake -

Your love transformed our love into a gateway,
To the eternal love -

I stepped through our gateway to the eternal love,
And found there the realm of eternal love,
Which is now everywhere -

Thank you xx
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© TitusL

art co brigitte jost

Angel Cards / Post

This morning after my yoga session and same as every morning I ask Wendy to 'place in my hand' the mornings choice of Angel Cards. I often ask a question out loud addressed to Wendy as she is right here, just not visibly/physically so...
Todays question was regards as it often is, how can I cope with her physical absence from my life?

The cards ( I 'take/am given' - three) gave me;

Communication, affirming what we were doing via the cards,
Faith,                  which I clearly need to carry on, and
Awakening -        my ongoing 'spiritual' awakening to her presence being with me...

If this is not sufficient indication of her choosing the cards and actually really being here with me, our little dog Rusty directly after this Angel Card moment, places himself sat in the living room doorway gazing intently at the front door, awaiting Wendy to come in..
They say that dogs and creatures do perceive things beyond our range of eyesight.

If this is not enough to indicate that he felt Wendy was near to us, when I then walked up the stairs to have my shower, he raced up with me which he never does and leapt onto our bed and sat looking expectantly...

I took another card to ask her how to cope with Rusty missing her too, 
the card was Surrender.
And besides it on the table had 'fallen' / was another chosen by Wendy
Tenderness

I am in tears now, of grief and of gratitude xx


TitusL

art co peter fich christainsen

 photo of angel cards chosen by Wendy co TitusL

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Angel Cards are a great way to connect with your angels or the spirit of your loved ones. 

Whether you 'believe' in angels and spirits or not, the cards help us look at the world in ways that infuse our lives with vitality and assist us to experience the deeper levels of understanding by evoking our intuitive abilities and renewing our spiritual connection to our own deeper innner self or spirit. Our attention and energy do to some extent follow our intention in life and if we open ourselves up the notion of a higher power guiding us and ask for guidance choosing a card from all those laying face down (so that we cannot bias the choice) the message on the card chosen may be from a higher power, an angel or spirit /or it may not. Either way the actual messages can then be taken as a guide to the day 

to inspire and uplift us. 

A bit New Age for some or too spiritual for others, they have a genuinely calming and positive influence on my outlook and that prooves they are effective for me. 

Originally made by hand, Joy Drake and Kathy Tyler started the angel cards some 39 years ago while living at the Findhorn Foundation in Scotland. I have never been to Findhorn but I have heard of it often - The Findhorn Foundation is situated in the north east of Scotland and it is a spiritual community, eco village and an international centre for holistic learning.

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Seven Heavens & the Voyage of the Soul / Post

Studying the afterlife and the ongoing voyage of the soul is an unusual persuit which may be of interest to the spiritualy intruigued and perhaps to those who are recently bereaved - 
I am both. I have collated this information because I am curious to know more about the possible paths of our spirits after we leave this Earth. Perhaps I am configuiring the information to serve as a guide for my own soul once I physically discorporate. I have avoided drawing too much specific detail from any one religion, sharing a more generalised overview that many religions and spiritual traditions might relate with to some extent, along with more detailed passages shared from Frederic W. H. Myers co-founder and later president of the Society for Psychical Research. .

In religious and mythological cosmology, the 'Seven Heavens' is term used to refer to seven levels or divisions of Heaven. The concept, derived from ancient Mesopotamian religions, can be found in the Abrahamic religions such as Islam, Judaism and Christianity as well as some Indian religions such as Hinduism.  Sometimes these heavens are also referred to as spiritual planes, realms or as dimensions, I will use the term Planes here.
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On The Seven Planes of the Spirit World
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The First Plane - The Earth Plane, is the densest of the spiritual planes and comprises correspondingly lower vibrations. Those souls who are too powerfully attached to certain people on Earth or who cannot accept they have died may stay attached to this plane for a period of time until they can resolve these issues.
I would take this to mean that souls who find themselves at this point may move on when they are ready to let go, unless they need to remain longer for healing purposes as might be the case in certain circumstances.
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The Second Plane - The Astral or Emotional Plane, has two levels;
Firstly, The Lower Level of The Astral Plane, which may seem dark or foreboding - Buddhists would call this the 'Bardo' and Catholics would call it Purgatory. Whilst in this plane, those here would go through a period of reflection which provides them with further understanding of their life on Earth and their progress along their path towards fulfilling their soul purposes.
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Frederic W. H. Myers confusingly calls this plane ‘Hades’. Myers asked us however to avoid the negative connotations associated with the name, for this is not a hellish domain but an intermediate plane; a temporary stop-over designed for healing and regeneration.  As Myers pointed out, each person will experience the intermediate plane differently, according to his or her experience.
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For example Francis, having lived her life as a nun, apparently woke up after her death in a kind of Catholic Rest Home run almost entirely by sisters of the faith, many whom she had known in life. Francis resided at this rest home during her own convalescence and after her healing was complete, decided to remain there to assist other new arrivals. Hugh Benson describes the scene as an on-looker presumably acheived through his ability as a medium or divine messenger:
''This great ray was the downpouring of life – a healing ray – send to those who had already passed here, but who were not yet awake. When they were fully restored to spiritual health, there would be a splendid awakening, and they would be introduced to their new land. I noticed that there were quite a number of people seated upon the grass in the grounds, or walking about. They were relatives of those who were undergoing treatment within the hall of rest, and those whose awakening was imminent.''
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Following this period of reflection and healing, the soul will then be assigned to the next required plane of experience for their development - for example Reincarnation or Ascension.
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Secondly, The Upper Level of The Astral Plane, which is lighter and less dense because here the vibrations are much faster - this is more of a halfway station between Earth and the Spirit World.
An analogy for the upper plane might liken it to a spiritual airport, a reconfiguring and departure point.
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The Third Plane, The Plane Of Illusion which is also spoken of as The Summerlands, is described as a dimension distinctively Earth-like in appearance and within close proximity to the Earth itself (not in terms of space as we know it, but on a vibratory level). It is the most populated of the afterlife dimensions and where the majority of Earth souls will spend their time between incarnations.  Communication between Earth and the spirit world is easiest from this near-Earth dimension, therefore it is the most well-described of any afterlife dimension. When souls describe spending their time in the afterlife swimming in crystalline lakes, living in beautiful homes ringed by the most fantastic gardens, playing games, enjoying art and music, and generally recreating the kind of earthly life they could never have enjoyed on earth, they are describing the wonders of the third plane. For the devout who anticipate nothing less after death than what their Earthly religion has promised, the third plane also delivers as they manifest their religious beliefs here, therefore this plane is variously called ‘Heaven’, ‘Nirvana’, the Devachanic plane, or just ‘the Spirit World’ and it is exactly what you’d expect: the best, most beautiful version of Earth you could imagine.
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Myers himself was perceptive enough to see the third plane for what it is: a self-created analogue of the Earth for those spirits who would be uncomfortable or unprepared with anything more abstract. For souls who come through death completely unprepared, the Third Plane is like a kindergarten; a safe place for guides and teachers to (re)introduce souls to their spiritual heritage. For the slightly more prepared soul, the Third Plane may be a stop-over; a ‘club med’ for those on the way to the learning or teaching spheres.
At this point, according to Myers, a soul has two choices, the first option is to be reborn on earth or another planet to challenge oneself in the intense joys and pain of physical life. The second option is to stay in the spirit world, but begin preparing for spiritual progression into the higher planes.
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The Fourth Plane - The Plane of Unity, is described as a realm of pure consciousness. The Akashic plane is also in what is also called the lower Devachan, which corresponds to the Fourth Plane. The soul is now free of any need for reincarnation on the lower planes and Earth. Many selfless caring souls here work together to bring spiritual enlightenment to the lower planes and to the Earth. It is interesting to consider that a number of prophets and spiritual teachers who have transmited healings, messages and teachings directly from the divine higher power may have done so from this plane.
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The Fifth Plane - The Plane Of Flame, here the soul takes on the form of a flame and can travel the universe at will. It can grow in understanding and while it still retains its individuality it becomes part of a 'soul group' - of spirits who vibrate at the same level or who are at the same level of understandings. Myers also tells us that fifth plane is where in his terms the 'group soul' is perfected, and no member of this union may ascend to the sixth plane until all members have progressed to the fifth. More progressed members of the group soul spend a long time at this level, awaiting the rest of the group to join them. Often, they provide guidance and assistance to the fledgling members of their group, as they strive and struggle through their incarnations and challenges. Perhaps this aspect of the group soul is the ‘higher self’ that we so often hear mentioned by spiritual teachers?
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The Sixth Plane, The Plane Of Light, is also called The Divine Plane and comprises a realm of cosmic consciousness where the unity of evolved souls is so perfected that a kind of universal being exists, which may be close to what we think of as God. Souls that have acsended to this plane have lived through all the relevant aspects of the created universes and have completed their growth process. They have no need for matter or form and exist purely as 'white light' . Fulfilling their soul purpose of the evolution of consciousness they are now so in accord with the Creator that they become the pure thought of the Creator. Of the sixth plane, Myers has little detail to share, what he describes is the ascension into pure consciousness; nearly incomprehensible to us form-addicted creatures on Earth.
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The Seventh Plane - The Spirit Plane or Seventh Heaven itself, is the realm of of God the Creator. In this dimension, souls enter full partnership with God.  Everything we do, on Earth and in the higher dimensions, is directed toward that final transformation of divine union.
Myers speaks of this plane with great reverence, though we get the sense that such a state is inconceivable;
''The soul who enters that Seventh state passes into the Beyond and becomes one with God. This merging with the Idea, with the Great Source of spirit does not imply annihilation. You still exist as an individual. You are as a wave in the sea; and you have at last entered into Reality and cast from you all the illusions of appearances.''

For those who believe this outlook including myself, it is a beautiful way that souls may unfurl and develop to fulfil their ultimate soul purpose and become a part of the shimmering 
infinity of divine transcendental love.

Best Wishes
TitusL


Sources
Spencer David - Expression Of Consciousness

The Road to Immortality – The Seven Spiritual Planes

Various Descriptions of the Afterlife Realms 

A Shadow Of Joy Flickered / Poem - Author Unknown

A shadow of joy flickered; it is me.
I told you I wouldn't leave.
My memories, my thoughts are imbedded deep in your heart.
I still love you.
Do not for one moment think that you have been abandoned.
I am in the Light.
In the corner, in the hall, the car, the yard ~
these are the places I stay with you.
My spirit rises every time you pray for me,
but my energy comes closer to you.
Love does not diminish; it grows stronger.
I am the feather that finds you in the yard,
the dimmed light that grows brighter in your mind,
I place our memories for you to see.
We lived in our special way,
a way that now has its focus changed.
I still crave your understanding
and long for the many words of prayer
and good fortune for my soul.
I am in the Light.
As you struggle to adjust without me,
I watch silently.
Sometimes I summon up all the strength of my new world
to make you notice me.
Impressed by your grief,
I try to impress my love deeper into your consciousness.
As you should, I call out to the Heavens for help.
You should know that the fountain of youth does exist.
My soul is now healthy.
Your love sends me new found energy.
I am adjusting to this new world.
I am with you and I am in the Light.
Please don't feel bad that you can't see me.
I am with you wherever you go.
I protect you,
just as you protected me so many times.
Talk to me and somehow I will find a way to answer you.
Mother, Father, son or daughter, it makes no difference.
Brother, sister, lover, husband or wife, it makes no difference.
Whatever our connection ~ friend or even foe ~ I see you with my new eyes.
I am learning to help wherever you are, wherever I am needed.
This can be done because I am in the Light.
When you feel despair, reach out to me. I will come.
My love for you truly does transcend from Heaven to Earth.
Finish your life with the enthusiasm and zest that you had
when we were together in the physical sense.
You owe this to me, but more importantly,
you owe it to yourself.
Life continues for both of us.
I am with you because I love you
and I am in the Light.

Author Unknown

Continuing Bonds: Shifting the Grief Paradigm / Article

Continuing Bonds: Shifting the Grief Paradigm;
Heres another post that I compiled to share in the Bereavement Forum which may be of interest to others too. It details a different approach to coping with the grief for a lost loved one than the more widely known reconciliation and closure methods - that of continuing your bond or bridge of love to and with your beloved.

If ideas of acceptance, closure, reinvestment of energy, and embarking on a ‘new life’ have ever rubbed you the wrong way, you are not alone. It was only a matter of time before someone stood up and yelled, I don’t need to put my loved one in the past and reinvest my energy in a new life in order to be healthy and well-adjusted! Klass, Silverman, and Nickman, explicitly questioned the dominant models of grief. The(ir) book suggested that perhaps these linear models, ending in a detachment from the person we’ve lost, were denying a reality of how many people grieve. They suggested a new paradigm, rooted in the observation of healthy grief that did not resolve by detaching from the deceased, but rather in creating a new relationship with the deceased.

Here is the 30 second summary: under this model, when your loved one dies grief isn’t about working through a linear process that ends with ‘acceptance’ or a ‘new life’, where you have moved on or compartmentalized your loved one’s memory. Rather, when a loved one dies you slowly find ways to adjust and redefine your relationship with that person, allowing for a continued bond with that person that will endure, in different ways and to varying degrees, throughout your life. This relationship is not unhealthy, nor does it mean you are not grieving in a normal way. Instead, the continuing bonds theory suggests that this is not only normal and healthy, but that an important part of grief is continuing ties to loved ones in this way. Rather than assuming detachment as a normal grief response, continuing bonds considers natural human attachment even in death.
If you are interested please follow the link below for more details -
SOURCE; WHATS YOUR GRIEF ( https://whatsyourgrief.com/continuing-bonds-shifting-the-g…/ )

16 Tips for Continuing Bonds with People We’ve Lost
With decades of grief theory that focused on closure, acceptance, and moving on, it is no wonder that so many grievers feel self-conscious about maintaining ties with their deceased loved one after a certain period of time. Many now believe that healthy grief involves finding a new and different relationship with the person who died.
If you love the continuing bonds theory you may be looking for ways to continue bonds with your loved one.

We have some ideas here;
1. Talk to them
2. Write letters to the person you lost.
3. Keep photos of the person around.
4. Incorporate your loved one into events and special days.
5. Imagine what advice they would give you when making tough decisions.
6. Talk about them with new people, who never got to know your loved one.
7. Live your life in a way you know they would be proud of.
8. Finish a project they were working on.
9. Take a trip they always wanted to take.
10. Keep up their facebook page.
11. Adopt a hobby that they enjoyed.
12. Create a Dear Photograph.
13. Plan for the anniversary.
14. Keep something that belonged to your loved one.
15. Enjoy comfort foods.
16. Experience your loved one’s presence.

It is common to feel the presence of your loved one – it may just be a feeling, it may be a specific type of wind or bird or countless other things that seem to be a sign of our loved one’s presence. Unlike the studies about keeping something that belonged to your loved one, feeling your loved one’s presence has been shown in studies to ease the sadness that accompanies grief. So when you feel your loved one’s presence, feel it without apology or any worry that you are crazy! This is a normal and helpful way we continue bonds with our loved ones.
More details for all of those points if you follow the link below -
SOURCE; WHATS YOUR GRIEF ( https://whatsyourgrief.com/16-practical-tips-continuing-bo…/ )

I like this outlook as it very clearly portrays how I have been feeling and instinctually behaving, it seems to focus on love more than grief and continuance of that love rather than closure. It may not be for everyone, but for me it is encouraging that my approach does not mean I have lost my mind or that my grief is charting less than healthy waters - its an other way of addressing this situation, of remaining in touch, of cherishing the flame of love.

I hope this outlook may be of help to some.

TitusL xx

artwork co brigitte devia jost

Something So Fine / Guest Poem = Song

Something So Fine;

Oh darling, took a little time,
To clear the path betwen your heart and mine,
I tell tell you its nothing turning water to wine, but love is really something -

You could've left me when i came back roughed (?)
Could've packed your heart and said that you've had enough,
But you stayed with me and laid your love on the line,
Now we got something - so fine.

Ohh oh we got something so fine
I just wanted to remind you
Some people look for love like this all their lives -
And never find it.

Sky could tumble and the earth could quake,
Love might feel a rumble but it would not shake,
We could choose to drop this and it would not break
Truly amazing -
Hold me, in your heart of hearts,
I'll do the same.
Maybe thats all I really need when I say strength and the things that remain.
I could loose my partience, I could loosemy way,
My friends, my home, my health could go some day -
I could think I lost your love and then loose my mind,
But I could never really loose something so fine.

Ohh ohh we got something so fine,
I just wanted to remind you,
Some people look for love like this all their lives -
And never find it.

Ohh oh we got something so fine,
Some people look for love like this all their lives -
And never find it.

Kirtana
from the album Healing Rain.

The Offering / Guest Poem = Song

The Offering -

This river is a mighty one;
I have to trust its flow
But if you asked me where it's taking us,
I wouldn't say I know.
But I will go there willingly;
she's never led me astray.
And I've only be bruised
when I've refused to get out of my way.

So, I wouldn't stop the rain.
No, I wouldn't stop the rain.
What good would it do?
And I wouldn't trade the pain,
or mess with the math that created the path
that eventually led to you , my love.
I give you my love.

And when I say love
I mean a love that will stay love
through every change that could betray love
and the vicissitudes of time.
I mean mature love,
unconditional and pure love.
The kind of love I feel with your love,
I want you to feel with mine.

And if I had it to do over now
I am certain of one thing -
when the carousel came back around
I would still reach for that ring.
I would still reach for your arms, my love,
despite the pain that reach could bring.
I would still say Ôyes' to life and love
and accept the offering.

And I wouldn't stop the sun.
No, I wouldn't stop the sun -
What good would it do?
And I would rather stand than run
and squarely face the warmth and grace
of a blessing when it comes, my love.
I give you my love.

And when I say love
I mean a love that will stay love
through every change that could betray love
and the vicissitudes of time.
I mean mature love,
unconditional and pure love.
The kind of love I feel with your love,
I want you to feel with mine.

By Kirtana from the album The Offering.
( http://www.kirtana.com/content/offering-0 )

Kirtana is a songtress and poet of the highest order, I am listening to a lot of her beautiful songs and singing and finding them to be tremendously moving, inspiring and uplifting xx

The After Loss Credo / Guest Poem

The After Loss Credo;

I need to talk about my loss.
I may often need to tell you what happened –
or to ask you why it happened.
Each time I discuss my loss, I am helping myself
face the reality of the death of my loved one.

I need to know that you care about me.
I need to feel your touch, your hugs.
I need you just to be “with” me.
(And I need to be with you.)
I need to know you believe in me and in my
ability to get through my grief in my own way.
(And in my own time.)

Please don’t judge me now –
or think that I’m behaving strangely.
Remember I’m grieving.
I may even be in shock.
I may feel afraid. I may feel deep rage.
I may even feel guilty. But above all, I hurt.
I’m experiencing a pain unlike any I’ve ever felt before.

Don’t worry if you think I’m getting better
and then suddenly I seem to slip backward.
Grief makes me behave this way at times.
And please don’t tell me you “know how I feel,”
or that it’s time for me to get on with my life.
(I am probably already saying this to myself.)
What I need now is time to grieve and to recover.

Most of all, thank you for being my friend.
Thank you for your patience.
Thank you for caring.
Thank you for helping, for understanding.
Thank you for praying for me.
And remember, in the days or years ahead,
when you may have a loss – when you need me
as I have needed you – I will understand.
And then I will come and be with you.

Barbara Hills LesStrang.

On The Afterlife & Love / Article

On the Afterlife & Love;
I compiled this post to give comfort and hope to the Bereavement Forum where so many are in despair following the loss of their loved ones. I shared it here because some may find it of interest too;

Quantum physics 'proves' that there IS an afterlife, claims scientist Professor Robert Lanza who says that the theory of biocentrism teaches that death as we know it is an illusion. He believes 'our consciousness' creates the universe, and not the other way round. Once we accept that space and time are 'tools of our minds', death can't exist in 'any real sense' either.

As humans, we believe in death because we've been taught we die, or more specifically our consciousness associates life with bodies and we know that bodies die. Lanza, instead, said that when we die our life becomes a 'perennial flower that returns to bloom in the multiverse.' By looking at the universe from a biocentric's point of view, this also means space and time don't behave in the hard and fast ways our consciousness tell us it does. Once this theory about space and time being mental constructs is accepted, it means death and the idea of immortality exist in a world without spatial or linear boundaries. Under biocentrism a spirit could influence events in nature and metaphors such as 'we see her in the sunshine and in the roses' might not actually be a metaphor at all but literally true...

SOURCE; THE INDEPENDENT
( https://www.independent.co.uk/…/is-there-an-afterlife-the-s… )

For the non physicists among us, I'd take that to mean that after the body expires although informed by the life lived on Earth, the persons spirit exists independently of the body in higher/non physical states of being.

This idea is not too far afield from a real theory called Quantum Consciousness, proffered by a wide range of people, from physicist Roger Penrose to physician Deepak Chopra. Some versions hold that our mind is not strictly the product of our brain and that consciousness exists separately from material substance, so the death of your physical body is not the end of your conscious existence.

Quantum Entanglement theory is another clue in this puzzle indirectly, as it indicates the complexities of known universal properties. Quantum Entanglement can happen when two subatomic particles become linked and can communicate instantaneously with each other even though separated across astrologically long distances. Einstein called this property Spooky Action at a Distance. This shows that whatever our physical world and hard sciences may show us, there are more things in heaven and Earth, than are dreamt of in your philosophy....

It is one of cosmology’s more perplexing problems: that up to 90% of the ordinary matter in the Universe appears to be missing - because they cant find or see it. Whilst there is now some conjecture that the missing aspects are caught up in star dust trailing between galaxies - I think that may be missing the point and that there is infinitely more going on than we can manage to conceive of. As we who live in matter bound bodies on Earth have noticed, 'nature' abhors a vacuum - there is no empty space which is not teeming with microbes or electric charges, life or 'existence' in some form or some beyond form. Perhaps you need to take a leap of faith to accept this point - go ahead, the world is not flat after all.

Two lovely books by a mathematician called Flatland and Sphereland are really helpful in contextualising some idea of dimensions beyond our own realms. Flatland: A Romance of Many Dimensions by the English schoolmaster/mathemetician Edwin Abbott Abbott.
The first half of the story goes through the practicalities of existing within a two-dimensional universe.
On New Year's Eve the 'Square' ( a 'person' who exists as a square form) dreams about a visit to a one-dimensional world (Lineland) inhabited by "lustrous points". These points are unable to see the Square as anything other than a set of points on a line. Thus, the Square attempts to convince the realm's monarch of a second dimension; but is unable to do so. In the end, the monarch of Lineland tries to kill A Square rather than tolerate his nonsense any further.
Following this vision, he is himself visited by a three-dimensional sphere.
These two books are fabulous at showing how consciousness or awareness within a constrained set of dimensions may not be able to perceive beyond their confines but this does not mean that the other dimensions are non existent.

Our emotions and inner feelings - not physical sensations such as being ticklish or cold, but spiritual or higher feelings/states of being such as inner happiness or love - are not physically based or triggered. They are non physical, not something you can physically touch, but you can definitely experience and see their manifestation in yourself and others. They are in fact be the very aspects that make a life worth living.

All these and many more examples inform my perception that there is more to us than mere physical bodies with ensuing minds derived from them.

Just what the spirit-energy of us comprises though, how it is 'formed' and exists outside of our material realm, while the religious teachers, physicists and mathematicians may have some idea, I do not. It is beyond my cognition, if not to some extent my intuitive perception or apprehension. That dosent matter in the least to me, I also do not understand that actual physics of how the sun continues to combust at unimaginable rates for what will be ungraspable lengths of time, nor how a plant cell actually photosynthesises sunlight into energy and mud into beautiful flowers. Scientific descriptions are not the same thing as experience and it is an acceptance of all this ineffable wonder that we live in, with and by that informs my perception.

I do feel love in my heart and this 'feeling' or more correctly this awareness, extends beyond my body and mind to encompass all of my experience of existing, it allows me to exist for now in a body but in due course without one, in a loving universe. These explanations work to pacify my rationalising materialist/physical bound mind and even if I was wrong they provide me with a more uplifted experience of love transcending life than I would have otherwise.

Uncertainty is also both a great doorway and an inner location from which to experience a sense of connection with spirit beyond the physical. While certitude will close many doors of perception, the cloud of unknowingness will leave them open. In the chosen absence of a dogmatic faith to guide me through the gateway into a state of uncertain spiritual awareness, I find absolute, unconditional and unreserved love is the bridge and the key.

These views help me and they may help you too.
Best wishes to all,

TitusL.

My Wife Is A Rainbow / Post

We first met on this Earth in Secondlife, an unscripted virtual reality environment where you could be anything and go anywhere in an instant. I dropped out of the sky into a circle meeting around a log fire on an unknown island where I met Wendy under her pseudonym of Elfheart Rising.

We took to each other immediately and that led to lots of away time together talking about our Earth lives and our spiritual lives. The virtual reality environment gave us an enchanting backdrop of mountainous gardens with wild waterfalls, giant trees and endless starry moonlight nights. Our own music played just for us on our headsets as we danced romantic dances atop ancient elven towers in each others arms night after night...

The venue provided us as a couple a perfect way to be together in spirit and love every night even though physically we lived hundreds of miles apart.

After a few months we decided to meet up in 'real life' which was awesome. Following a whirlwind first date in London we made a long weekend every week with either Wendy or myself going to stay at each others home and have adventures together. Weeknights we relied on the virtual reality to provide the venue for us, although by this point we both realised that we are spiritually connected at all times and that we always have been...

This situation carried on for about a year at which point we decided I should move in with her which I did. I moved across the country to be with Wendy in London. After about a year living together, sharing a spiritual outlook as 'cosmic elves' and bringing our love to the world, we decided to get married. Although our marriage was a small family affair held in beautiful rural Cumbria, for us it was a festival of light and we were in the seventh heavens together.

Following about five years in London and longing for a return to the nature that we had both grown up in, we left the City and moved up to Cumbria together -

The years of our life together have been nothing but absolute love and devotion, endless delight and all sorts of adventures.

During this heaven on Earth, Wendy's physical body got terminal cancer and after two years of treatment passed away. I am completely heartbroken.

We always have had a powerful connection to each other through our love and our spiritual outlook, which has made our separation all the more overwhelming, it has destroyed me. Conversely though, the same connection and outlook have enabled me to more readily accept that Wendy has just upscaled her spirit's base of operations. She is now a light body in the higher realms.

In the same way that we carried on a relationship disconnected by distance at the start of our time on Earth together, we now may do so again although via the 'technology' of our spirits. The dissconect once of distance is now transformed to be the physical realm itself. But the bridge between our spirits is exactly as before and can be crossed immediately by moving my mind into an awareness of the now and by opening my heart to her presence. Whilst I perceive our love and her presence to be ongoing, I have yet to identify a two way communicative link. Spiritual technology would be so much easier to learn to do if people were more widely aware of it - For the time being I practise mindfulness, meditation, yoga and unconditional love to help me calm my aching heart and racing mind, to become still enough to be more open to the moment and thus able to perceive the messages of love and presence that Wendy is sending to me.

This new relationship with Wendy's love and presence will continue until by heavens hand I am similarly uptaken to the beyond realms. Once there, Wendy will be able to show me our new light bodies, our new home and all the new cosmic adventures ahead.

Biocentrism encourages me in the belief of such a natural spiritual 'technology' which I believe to be innate to us all as beings of light and love beyond the physical realms of matter. As regards reciprocal communication between us while I am still here on Earth, absolute unconditional love will be the key, along with the help of grace from higher realms. I keep my heart open.

"Just as many rivers lead to the sea, there are many paths to God. Each of the seven primary energy centers of the human body, the chakras, corresponds to a specific path...I think of the rainbow as a metaphor for the seven paths to God, which are likewise a part of what seems to be an indivisible whole -- each a precious reflection of one aspect of divine consciousness.'' 
Joan Borysenko  - The Seven Paths To God.

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My wife is a rainbow of light and of love

❤️🌺🙏xx~

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© TitusL

Why So Many Poems You May Wonder / Post

Why so many poems you may wonder.
Partly because 'why' is a torment that will destroy my heart and spirit if I let it - why did it have to be terminal, why her, why us, why......

Partly because I am finding a joy in charting these poetic paths out of the emotional depths of despair and into the spiritual heights.

To spend time with my Wendy as I write these poems, to catch hold of a thread of light and love, to weave it into a bridge for hearts and souls to move into brighter states of being. This is who we are as a couple, always believing in the light, sharing and being as an expression of love.

If I do not refocus on our love, daily reorienting my heart compass to its eternal center in the divine where Wendy now resides, I easily fall to and am swept away in grief and despair. In the writing of this poetry however I find my heart refreshed and am able to move beyond my loss and carry on in our shared loving outlook, to still be the me of us. Location is nothing I have found, togetherness is everything and it is based in the love in the heart. And love is not constrained by space nor time.

I am very blessed to have shared my love with Wendy and to still do so despite our current obstacles. Our spirits were in bright accord when we met and through our deep affinity we have been able to grow further together during this life than otherwise.

We have touched the heavens and whilst Wendy has gone ahead, I look forward to rejoin her when the time is right.
Until then I shall try to remain in light. ♥️🙏